Archive for October, 2010

Please stop by and read this lovely post by a young woman from my ward. She recently started college and posted this essay from her college application. It is perhaps the loveliest and most endearing essay I’ve read about motherhood. (And all she says is true about her mother!)



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Lately, my inbox is full of ads from companies. My mailbox is full of bills. My blog is empy. And Facebook, while fun, offers nothing beyond short little blurbs, sometimes pithy, but not really meaty.

Do you remember a time when letters were the norm? I used to write dozens of people on a weekly basis. And when I got my first email account at BYU, my inbox was filled to the brim with emails from friends. And not just short blurbs, but lengthy detailed letters. When I moved to Sweden, I received regular emails from friends. I loved them and saved those letters.

I have been a terrible correspondent and most of my long letters have fallen by the wayside. My life is busy, as are the lives of my friends. We all have children, struggle with housework, cope with illnesses, ponder over the dinner question, and still try to think coherent thoughts. And unfortunately, I have lost the ability to converse on the phone. I can call my mom and sisters. But I freeze up in any other conversation. It is a silly phobia, but very real. So if you call me and I sound like a complete moron, chalk it up to my phobia!

So does anyone want to join me in some meaningful conversation? Are you feeling a bit starved? If so, want to be my pen pal, email pal or just blog pal?

I promise I’ll write back.

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So the buzz in the world of the blogs I frequent is about teaching kids to work. I’ve read more than one post lamenting the way parents are not teaching their children to master the basic skills of life. I admit I fall into that category. Teaching my kids to work is my biggest parenting weakness. I know that I want my kids to learn how to work. I believe it is important. But implementing that teaching into my life exhausts me on every level. My main parenting goal this year has been to work  on having my kids pitch in more with the housework. The kids are doing more, including washing dishes, folding laundry and cleaning. But we are still a long way from where I want to be.

I struggle with incorporating those moments into daily life. My kids leave home at 8 a.m. They usually help me with the dishes before they go. They get home from school at 3:45. I have a strict routine to help them with homework. Homework really does fill a lot of our time. From 3:45-5:00 they do homework and play games. From 5-6 we eat dinner. At 6 p.m., we read scriptures and they get ready for bed. My kids go to bed at 7 p.m. I feel like there is very little time to incorporate cleaning into the schedule on a daily basis. I work on Saturdays and so my husband takes over the main parenting responsibilities. He doesn’t want to do a big cleaning that day. Which I respect and understand.

But that leaves me with the question of when to do this. . .

So I am asking you, my friends, how you teach your kids how to work. What kinds of work you are teaching them? When do you teach them? Do you do things one on one or do teach in group lessons? What things do you expect your kids to  do at home? Why do you value teaching your kids to work? I want to hear how you reward or punish them in regards to work? How do you check up on it? (If you say charts, I will cry because I am not a chart person. Charts fill me with great dread and render me incapable of completing anything. . . )

So, if you have ideas, a philosophy and even a method, would you be interested in a writing a guest post for me? Leave a comment if you are interested!

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