I recently read an interview of one of my favorite people: Christina from http://handsfullmom.blogspot.com And, in a fit of insanity, I asked to be interviewed. Here are her questions and my answers. If you want to play along, read the instructions at the bottom of the post.
1. After five years in Sweden, you’ve been in the States for about a year. What do you miss most about Sweden?
It is really hard to believe that I’ve been back in the U.S. for a year. I’m still adjusting. I had no idea it would be so difficult to adjust back to life in my home country. I deeply miss the friends I made in Sweden. In so many ways, we were very vunerable as foreigners and being so far from family. Therefore, when we were in need, we had to reach out to our friends. They came through in such magnficent ways. They gave us rides, watched our children so we could go to the temple, gave us blessings, fed us, and loved us. I also really miss the charm of the city of Lund. All the buildings are really old and developers haven’t been hit by the crazy urge to tear down and build new. Rather, they’ve adapted the old buildings. Sweden really has a knack for blending the past with a very modern future. I miss the bike paths and my beloved pink bicycle. (My body really misses the exercise.) I also miss pear drinks, pear chocolate, meatballs, crisp bread, Swedish cheese and the chocolate.
2. What are your favorite things about Swedish culture? Least favorite things?
I love that Swedes feel connected to their ancestry. When we visited people, they could still tell us about grandparents, cousins, uncles, etc. who had emigrated to America. Do most Americans ever think about the people their ancestors left behind? I love that most Swedes sing beautifully, even when drunk.(We lived in student housing and there are parties nearly every Friday and Saturday. This means that you hear a lot of singing drunks.) I also really appreciate the way Swedes value friendship, nature, and good technology.
The single thing that drives me crazy and infuriates me about Sweden are the rigid cultural rules that are very difficult to understand for foreigners. But even worse is the lack of tolerance that Swedes have for foreigners who break those unwritten rules. I understand every culture has its unwritten rules. But to outsiders, those rules don’t always make sense. Explaining patiently the rule is a much better way to help foreigners understand than rudeness.
3. If you could go back in time and leave a note for yourself when you were expecting your first child, what would you say? What advice would you have for a younger version of yourself?
Dear Self,
Don’t lose your confidence about parenting. You’re doing just fine. Enjoy the moments when you hold your baby in your arms. It’s okay if all you do in the day is nurse your baby. There will come a time when you long for such a quiet day.
Love, Me
4. If you could pick one or two things to change about yourself, what would they be?
Procrastinating and being argumentative: my life would be much better if I conquered those two weaknesses
5. Where do you see yourself in five years? In ten?
In five years I hope to see myself with a great routine at home, where my kids really pitch in at home and are developing in great ways. I see myself continuing to learn in many different ways. I also hope that I will have visited new places.
In ten years, I hope to have another degree in something. I’d like to see my oldest ready for a mission. I hope that I’ll have a handle on parenting teens. I hope by then I’ll have taken that trip to Greece that I’ve been longing for.
(Gosh, that was a hard question. Ever since having children, I’ve really struggled with setting goals and making plans for the future. I’m not completely satisfied with my answer, but I think it is a good stepping point for me.)
And here’s the instructions to add to your post:
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Do you want to play along and get interviewed too?
Here’s the directions:
1. Leave me a comment saying, “Interview me,” along with your email address if I don’t have it (or a link to your blog where I can post a comment with questions).
2. I will respond by emailing you five questions. (I get to pick the questions).
3. You will update your blog with the answers to the questions.
4. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the same post.
5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.
Feel free to leave a comment even if you’d rather not be interviewed yourself — I love comments!
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